friends

Useful visitors

I was lucky enough to have one of my chosen brothers to stay last week end. I don’t see him nearly enough as he lives up North. Luckily he was down South judging dogs in Devon so there was no excuse not to stop by. We have no spare room at my mothers but he is happy to kip on the sofa.
I have been cataloguing my mothers dog books which are numerous so his help was greatly appreciated and we managed to complete the task. I now only have the sporting books to do which are many.
It was nice for my mother as he has been a family friend for a long time and they have a great deal in common.
The house is quiet now he has left to go back up North but I am sure we will see him again soon.
This week my task is to teach my new program Dragon speaking so it will be quicker than typing(some hopes).

Visiting, sunshine and Reminiscing.

Friends

With Rosemary an old school friend of fifty years.

I have just spent three wonderful days with an old school friend and her husband down in Dorset. I ordered good weather and I was not disappointed, let us hope we do not have a return to winter next week. As I wrote previously in a blog real friends are amazing. You don’t have to see them daily or pick up the phone every five minutes.

I met Rosemary in my first term at boarding school (of which an amusing article you will find if you click here). I had never been away from home before and being transported to a strange environment at the age of eleven over a hundred miles away was pretty scary. I have never forgotten the kindness Rosemary showed me along with an American girl Nancy McClave who I have never been able to find again. Rosemary’s own life was not easy but it never stopped her from helping me through that first term. Sadly after she left we lost touch but on a visit to our local church next to the old school I found Rosemary had also visited and left her address in the visitors book. It was such a delight that I could make contact again. This I duly did and we have exchanged Christmas cards ever since. We arranged to meet at a pony show I was judging soon after we renewed our friendship and then I was able to stay on my way to Cornwall some time later. I then arranged a school reunion which was the first one we had had and she managed to join us.

So when I managed to arrange some care for my mother so I could take a short break the first person I contacted was Rosemary. Thankfully they were home over those few days and I was treated royally. We always have so much catching up and reminiscing to do I am sure her poor husband is glad when I have left. We had such fun and managed to swap addresses of others from school so we can get in touch.

Hopefully it wont be too long before we can meet up again. Remember its never to late to make that call, write that letter or send an invitation. School days can be remembered as some of the best times you ever have.

People We Pass Along The Way

How many of us ponder the people we pass along life’s path. Whatever direction that is taken we mix with a variety of different people. From nursery school (or in my case kindergarten) and childhood friends, to teenage escapades to college or university and that’s before going to work. There are family members that come and go, either elderly relatives who pass away or ones that simply just disappear. Out of all the connections made with people it is only a small number that stay with us through life.

As one grows older our criteria changes when it comes to friends, because that’s when we realise we need good friends who will stick by you and not turn away when a crisis happens or advice is needed. How many friends can you count that you still know from the age of say 10? here I am talking real friends not those you would class as ongoing acquaintances. With real friends you don’t have to talk every day or even every month but you know they are there and when you meet up or pick up the phone its as if you saw them only yesterday.

During a working life particularly if you have had different careers or jobs you come across all walks of life, good and bad. And how about all those people you met in your teenage years going to clubs and parties.  Varied  interests conjures up different people, many long forgotten. But like dreams you can be minding your own business and suddenly someone who you hadn’t thought about or seen in decades suddenly comes to mind, giving cause to remember the good or maybe the bad times.

So just sit and think how many people have touched your life so far, hundreds, thousands or millions? Its a thought!

 

Is Networking Cost Effective?

I have many friends who do a lot of Networking. I have never subscribed to it although have attended the occasional meeting. My personal view is that its a nice diversion from slogging away in the office but does it actually yield enough business to cover the cost of membership, hours not working and the cost of travelling there and back. I remain sceptical.

Several friends in business seem to be always just off to or at a meeting and it can be any time of the day and in some cases quite a distance from base. In business we want clients and mixing with  people who are after the same conclusion seems perhaps a little pointless. It is obviously enjoyable  to meet with people in business but maybe not during the working day. Do those who network actually sit down and calculate the benefits. I do admit that they have some good and motivational speakers at some of the meetings that are beneficial.

Preaching to the converted in all things puzzles me and it is done so frequently in all walks of life and in all spheres. Surely we need to get it out ‘there’ rather than circulate it within our own bubble.

Networking at events where possible clients are is more positive and even in the local pub or family gatherings can yield work and contacts.

I have been involved with the dog showing and breeding world for a very long time and my mother and grandmother before me and this is a case in point. Although the powers that be are trying to get the right words out to the general dog owning public they still waste a lot of time preaching to their own kind.

Social networks and blogs to my mind are more effective as you reach a wider audience and people in different walks of life who may find what you are doing is interesting and worth following. By encouraging followers and friends you build up a good base of possible clients.

So my message to you is how much  are you benefiting from Networking?